Feeling grateful for what we have too often occurs to us only at peak moments, like at birthdays, promotions, graduations, events like this. What would it take to feel more grateful on a more routine basis, just a little each day, without any particularly noteworthy event pushing us? Let’s consider some possibilities. Have you ever traveled…
I Have To Take My Own Advice!
Folks in the healing professions are often long on suggestions but short on personal application; therapists in particular. Since I made some pointed suggestions for 2019 I feel particularly on the hook, so I’m going to make January all about listening more and speaking less. At the end of the month I’ll do an inventory…
Do You Expect Too Much Of Yourself?
Almost everyone I know tends to do this, to put the “bar too high” for themselves. Why do we do this? As with any trend we spot in ourselves that causes us difficulty, we should sit down and analyze “how come I persist in doing that?” Where did I get the tendency to require too…
Are You A Patient Person?
Lots of folks have trouble with consistently being patient, and certainly it’s an important part of all relationships. None of us are prompt, timely and understanding all the time, and since it’s so easy to slip into becoming impatient it’s worthwhile to explore it. By and large, impatience is a reaction to a certain circumstance. I…
Am I Likeable?
This certainly is a very personal issue and thinking about it might make you anxious. There’s not a person I’ve ever met who doesn’t want to be liked and appreciated by others, but a deeper question might be “am I likeable?” Think about it. If you don’t regard yourself as likeable, then the positive sentiments of…
Operating Against Your Own Best Self-Interests…Financial Matters…
Nowhere does the matter of “shooting yourself in the foot” have such long-lasting and perhaps irretrievable consequences than in financial matters. We have considered self-defeating trends in our personal lives as well as in the workplace, so today let’s think about how getting in your own way can affect us in financial matters. Let’s focus…
Resentments In The Workplace…How Do We Handle Them?
Who hasn’t gone through a period of feeling resentful toward co-workers? My bet is most of us have sometime in our careers, if not on a more or less routine basis. Regardless of whether you’re the boss or an employee, we can’t avoid experiencing disappointments with each other, have misunderstandings, or tolerating plain rudeness with…
Are You Good At Taking Advice?
If you are, then you are to be commended. Taking the advice of others can be a wise way to live. A friend can often see solution possibilities for your dilemmas more clearly than you can, because he has a different perspective on the difficulty and he is not caught in the middle of it. …
Operating Against Our Own Best Self-Interest – Personal Relationships…
Last month we looked at self-sabotage in the workplace, today let’s consider how this human tendency affects our personal relationships in everyday life. A subtle item that comes to mind is the difficulty most folks have with accepting a compliment. Have you ever found yourself being complimented and it makes you squirm? Why is this? If…
Operating Against Our Own Best Self-Interest…Worklife…
Every so often, a person will ask me “what can I do to be happier in life?” After many years of considering this question, I’ve come down to one great piece of advice: become aware of the ways you’re operating against your own best self-interest. Personally, I think this is a human tendency built into…
Chase E. Kneeland, M.Div. LMFT 