Many times I’m convinced there’s much more art than science when it comes to communicating. As I mentioned in a recent post, the best communication happens when both partners (or all the family members) “keep each other up-to-date” with how they’re managing life, where they’re going & what they’re involved in, and how they’re feeling…
New Offering – Online FaceTime & Skype Sessions!
Lately I’ve been asked by more than a few folks if I do FaceTime and Skype sessions, and my answer is “yes”…I’ve been doing them for some time now. It’s a great way to have an appointment when you can’t get to the office, and it’s also an ideal way to check me out and…
Are You “Keeping Track Of Yourself”?
Sometimes our lives just plain get away from us. Events occur that we haven’t planned for, we volunteer for obligations we later wish we hadn’t, work assignments come along that tax our energies and self-confidence, unforeseen challenges with our families crop up that simply have to be addressed, etc. We’ve all been there; there’s no…
The Value of Consistency…
My friends all marvel at my workshop out in the garage. The tools are hanging on the pegboard, the work surface is swept clean. The trash can is partially filled but not overflowing. The window I look out, opening onto the driveway, has a few cobwebs in the corners but the glass is clean and…
Are You A Positive Person?
As a member of a local church in our community I’ve been involved many times with congregational projects, initiatives and outreaches. Many times I’ve witnessed in committees someone coming forward with a creative new idea and being met with an avalanche of reasons why the idea won’t work or isn’t possible to be actualized in…
What’s So Great About Humility?
I was in my late 20’s when I first got some feedback from a colleague I respected that I ought to do something about my lack of humility. I was surprised to hear that, but like many comments people make that are true, we usually have a hard time really registering them and taking them…
The Importance of Having Fun…
We’re usually pretty serious in this post about relationship issues, being an authentic person, and how to manage the many challenges life throws at us – but I don’t think we’ve ever discussed how important it is to have fun as we go along in life. Taking time out to enjoy the beauty of our…
Graduating From Image To Identity…
I’ve always loved three-piece suits. Nothing is more sophisticated and dramatic than a navy blue suit and vest worn with a white shirt and a red & blue silk tie. Thirty years ago they were all the rage. Now they’re back, good looking as ever, and you’ll see them on movies stars doing TV ads…
Is Eye Contact Really All That Important?
So much of my work involves helping folks to connect with each other. Without a good person-to-person connection, there can’t be any significant transfer of information…which we like to call true communication. The simple fact is that eye contact is tremendously important in establishing that all-so-important connection, period. When partners feel out of touch with…
Did You Know Pornography Can Hurt You?
The most recent Time Magazine edition of 4-11-2016 surprised me. No, let me say that over again – shocked me! As a therapist who deals with upsetting events that come along in married life, intrusions that have negative effects on the couple, and violations of the trust that absolutely needs to exist between the partners…
Chase E. Kneeland, M.Div. LMFT 